Thank God it’s Fri-i-i-daaaay! Uhh! And thank God it’s sunny again! Goodnesss! So… starting the instagram page really was the best move for this series of the blog. It now has it’s own life and I’m enjoying the heck out of it. The direct interaction with interested peeps is so great and it feels like it has a place and feels so right for me. Thanks for the love and comments on the page. Upwards and onwards!



There are some new clubs in town!! Sadly they don’t have dark sultry lighting or dance floors, but they certainly have what we all need – food and laughter! Melville Comedy Club opened on 7th Street just over a month ago and just from their line-up I think they will bring a whole lot of fun. 50% off for legit students. How nice? The other club is Glory‘s weekly Ramen Club which is an intimate 3 course meal in a beautiful house setting. Bookings are essential, but I hear it’s so worth it. [Fri, 22 Feb 7pm]

Friday is full of great music events. Depending on what you’re into each one I’ve listed have completely different vibes by great artists. Diamond Thug and Bye Beneco are bringing dream pop, electronica and the visual stage performance they are known for to Snatch32 in Parkhurst tonight.  [Fri, 22 Feb 8pm]

My personal faves, Urban Village will be performing for the first time this year at Breezeblock, Brixton. These guys stays touring and bring such a fresh sound to traditional folk with Zulu sounds and Xhosa electric funk (which I honestly didn’t know was a thing but makes total sense). Not to be missed! [Fri, 22 Feb 7pm]

For a more mellow laid back sitch Artivist in Braamfontein hosts a weekly vinyl session, Mixtape Fridays, with various top DJs on Fridays from 6pm. Great for after work drinks and nibbles. [Fri, 22 Feb 6pm – late]



Get Saturday morning to a historic start with a walkabout tour at the Standard Bank Gallery in town. Today sees the launch of A Black Aesthetic exhibition which will go on for 2 months and open to all. This exhibition is said to be the largest collection of Black South African Artists since the dawn of our democracy. Amazing really. I’ll defs go see this and give you peak on the FOMOCam instagram stories. [Sat, 23 Feb 11am – 12pm]

If you don’t know the Feel Good Series you best know about it today! The mother of all Feel Goods is going down tomorrow at Victoria Yards. The first UMI Fest sees a line-up curated by fans of the party through votes on Instagram. What I love about this is that it’s not saturated with well-known, mostly male artists and DJs like you tend to see at most of these type of things. Expect to hear experiential sounds from great DJs, kwaito nostalgia from Darkie Fiction, afro-futuristic beats from rising star Muzi and Melo B’s sweet voice over slick lyrics. I’m obvs gonna be there – come say hi! [Sat, 23 Feb 3pm]

Joburg’s first Chinatown on 11 Commissioner Street will host their Chinese New Year in celebration of the Year of the Pig. The streets will be full of lights, displays of colour and huge fireworks from 9pm. 1Fox Junction and surrounding stores and restaurants will be open and sharing in the festivities. [Sat, 22 Feb 4pm – 11pm]

Haven’t found much happening on Sunday… yet! I will upload onto the FOMOFridaysJHB page as the weekend goes, be sure to follow and keep in touch. DM’s are always welcome if you need more info.

If you are not worn out from everything happening this weekend maybe a nice hike up and around Melville Koppies will be up your alley before brunch or lunch on Sunday. Starting from Marks Park Sports club this monthly hike is great for meeting new people and breaking a sweat while taking in the magnificent views and nature. [Sun, 23 Feb 8:0am]

Have a fab, fearless Friday and a bright and sunny weekend.







Hello!!! Happy Friday! 🙂 A whole 5 months later! There are a ton of reasons I took a pause from the blog, but this isn’t the post to go into that. I’m still keeping #FOMOFridays and will try my damnedest to make it a real thing. This time around I’m ditching the “Watching” and “Listening” sections (You can follow my instastories for that if you like). Peeps seemed to be more interested in the “Doing” and gig guide part of these posts so that’s all I’m gonna focus on from now on.

I’ve started an accompanying Instagram (@fomofridaysjhb) page which will link back to here for more info. Lord knows people ain’t got time for reading through blogposts these days – so Insta’s instant gratification of pics may or may not lead you lot back here for ticket links and detail on where, how and when. Starting small for today but I’ll be sourcing events I’d personally go to from Facebook events pages and various newsletters I follow. Enjoy! Have a dope weekend! Also shout out to the new kid in Club 30 – Siya ❤



With this ridiculous weather (supes grateful rain gods – but ohemgee!). The Bioscope has some goodies starting this weekend if you’re looking to get out but also be cosy. The 2019 Oscar Nominated Shorts (Animation and Live Action) screenings start tomorrow and run until early March. Also – Black Coffee produced coming of age film Matwetwe is on it’s last day tonight at the Bioscope. [Sat, 16 Feb – Sat, 2 Mar]

To observe Black History Month, The Market Theatre and the U.S. Embassy brings the South African version of Nina Simone Four Women. It premiered last week and will run until the 24th. I’ve only heard really good things about it and must go see it.

In the spirit of Valentines and what not there is a different kind of romance to be had at the Millennial Love Affair taking place at Tennis Club tonight. A celebration of love – it’s traumas and it’s glory in a safe inclusive space. [Fri, 15 Feb]



Naked Soul Sessions will host Neo-Soul singer Mpho Sebina at Untitled Basement on Saturday night. I honestly didn’t know much of her music until I looked her up on SoundCloud and YouTube. SOLD! Amazing. My homegirl Lungi a.k.a. BrownPepperAnn will be on the decks to get the party started. [Sat, 16 Feb]

As the poster suggests – Make Me Feel is a full technicolor experience of fun beats with some of my KCB faves. A groove is definitely in the heart at the Khona! [Sat, 16 Feb]

The year of the Pig is upon us (well to the Chinese) but if you’re like me and love you some Chinese New Year Celebrations. There are a few happening in Johannesburg. Cyrildene being the first tomorrow. Think street parades, open restaurants and just a full on jam. I’ve only ever been twice, but as a sucker for culture it’s worth a visit – even if just for lunch. Next week the Chinatown in the CBD will be having their celebrations too. [Sat, 16 Feb]

Sunday Edition is back for it’s second edition this year. Last month was an absolute blast and if you squint you can see me doing the get-down in this months promo poster. I love a good Sunday party. It’s  huge trap – but the best people always come out. [Sun, 17 Feb]





It’s A Long Shot. But Why Not?

A.k.a. twenty-MINE-teen. So I always have this weird thing about my thought or experience related posts that I write. They always want to be written – but then I need something that makes me write them. This one in particular was initially a 2018 reflection and a peek into my hopes for 2019 (hence the ‘a.k.a’ – because that was the original title). But today for some reason I had this Kelly Clarkson song on repeat in my head. Which actually isn’t the song where the title is from, but I think I had to listen to it to get to the actual song (in the same album) that led me to write this. Bear with me… I’m getting to the point. I’m sure I lost some of you when I mentioned Kelly Clarkson. For those still reading, the song is called ‘Long Shot’ and was written by Katy Perry (oh God I’m making it worse) and it’s about taking a leap of faith into a statistically risky and improbable romance. When I got to the chorus while listening to in the car on the way home, I was like – oh snap!

It’s a long shot, but I say why not
If I say forget it, I know that I’ll regret it
It’s a long shot just to beat these odds
The chance is we won’t make it
But I know if I don’t take it, there’s no chance
‘Cause you’re the best I got.

Obviously I wasn’t thinking of any love interest or shaky relationship I want to dive into, but more on some experiences that I had in 2018. The ones that led me to learning more about myself and the decisions I make or don’t make. Experiences I could have easily said ‘forget it’ to because of fear, anxiety and tricking myself into thinking I already knew what the outcome was going to be without ever actually taking the chance.

Just to summarise a bit on the magic of taking a shot  at some things even when they may be foreign, surrounded by cynicism or even familiar but seemingly completely out of reach. Firstly was early last year when I consulted a psychic medium, I received a message that I had to start this blog.  For one – psychics or mediums aren’t exactly like going to see a trained doctor or anything, but my belief in a higher order and spiritual realm beyond this world helped squash any of those views. Secondly, from starting this blog I rediscovered my love of stories, imagery, collection and writing in my own unique voice. So then I enrolled in a 8-week creative writing course which opened up the creative beast that was lying dormant in me for years who only needed acknowledgement to get out.

To me these were long shots because I have always stood in my own way and was so very comfortable with limiting my capabilities. It was always – “you’re an engineer, what the hell do you know about this or that”. But the more I said “why not”, the more I started creeping closer to my limitless talent. Closer to being that kid who loved playing dress up, who didn’t have a gender (or so I thought), who created stories from nothing, who drew comic books, who danced and entertained, who was smart and logical and also sang Celine Dion’s Power of Love album in full soprano with their Sub-B teacher (that’s Grade 2 for the youngens).

All these things kept rushing back to this very moment where I’m typing this post – on this blog that I started with no idea what  wanted from it. This moment where I’ve started a YouTube/IGTV Channel (also no idea what it will or wont become), posted pictures of me dancing to my own freestyle choreo and this moment where I sit with a book full of song lyrics, story ideas and outfits I wanna wear. All that and still engineering my ass off on a daily basis. It’s all in one spirit.

My biggest long shot by far was fully sharing my authentic self with my father last Christmas. I’d always had a picture or idea in my head of who this man was. How he would react to a queer son who played around with gender, dyed his hair and wore nail polish. I used to always cut my hair and remove any trace of make-up before heading down to the Eastern Cape for the holidays. This time I didn’t. Bleach blonde hair, Mediterranean blue toe nails and some short shorts for control.

My dad started the convo by asking me how the reading went. It went well. His mother who I don’t remember, uMantshiza, came through with a message that now makes complete sense to me. Eventually we were sitting in the living room for almost 3 hours talking about my not-so-great life in school, how I was so great on stage and how it hurt to never be supported in the arts as much as my brothers were in sports. We laughed and cried a little and tried to make sense of the toxicity of our society’s idea of masculinity. How hectic? Also so damn beautiful.

We both miss the woman who raised me and the one who raised him. I never in a millions years thought I could have this kind of connection with my dad. If I never chose to fully be myself with him, I would have robbed us of this moment. So you never know what you could uncover from just taking the chance. Asking “Why not?” even if it seems so far from reality or even impossible because of where you are in life.

There is much to be learned in those chances and less to regret when you realise that you truly are the best you’ve got and have so much to give.