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Hey weekend! Human Rights events continue including a dope free concert at Constitutional Hill and a walk through the city to celebrate 25 years of democracy. Other events include rooftop brunches and picnics, live music, gallery exhibitions all in one great city. Follow our stories for updates and more!

Friday, 22 March:

 

*Human Rights Festival 2019*
Poetry, Book & Film Festival at Constitutional Hill
Fri, 22 Mar 5PM-9PM FREE (no registration needed)
(Screening of Dying for Gold & Matwetwe 6PM & 7:30PM)

Safari & Secret Underground Dinners
Ziyi Underground Bar, Gandhi Square
Fri, 22 Mar 7PM-11PM R595

By Way of Illustration
‘How to Make It as an Illustrator in Jozi?’ at J&B Hive, Braam
Fri, 22 Mar 6:30-9:30PM

Skin Deep Exhibition
AGOG Gallery, Maboneng
20 Mar- 30 Apr 12PM-10PM

The Dig
The Artivist, Braamfontein
Fri, 22 Mar 7PM-late

Arti-qulet – Alternative Love
Testament Bar, Braamfontein
Fri, 22 Mar 7PM-3AM

Ubuhle Bendalo – Sketch Battle
Grayscale Gallery, Braamfontein
Fri, 22 Mar 7PM-late

Saturday, 23 March:

 

Living Room Champagne Breakfast
The Living Room, Maboneng
every Sat, 23 Mar 9AM-1PM
More info – email: info@ivingroom.co.za

LoveMeSo Bottemless Bubbly Saturdays
Love Me So, Melville
Sat, 23 Mar 1PM-4PM

*Human Rights Festival 2019*
Makers Local Market at Constitutional Hill
Sat, 23 Mar from 10AM FREE

#StandUp4HumanRights Music Concert
Sat, 23 Mar 5PM-1AM FREE at Constitutional Hill
Registration on webtickets

Radio Bantu presents Bongeziwe Mabandla Live
Roving Bantu Kitchen, Brixton
Sat, 23 Mar 8PM R50/R100/R250 (with dinner)

Make Me Feel
KCB @barkitcheners
Sat, 23 Mar 8PM-3AM (R30 after 10PM)

Sunday, 24 March:

 

*Human Rights Festival 2019*
Annual We, the People Walk from ConHill
Sun, 24 Mar 8AM FREE at Constitution Hill
1km, 5km, 8km Registration on webtickets

Sundays in the Living Room
The Living Room, Maboneng
Sun, 24 Mar 11AM R55 presale/R100 at door

Vegan Social Picnic (Bring & Share)
WILD Community Centre, Edenvale
Sun, 24 Mar 11AM-3PM
email: email karin@akashahealing.co.za

Ponte City Challenge (900 stair run & breakfast)
Ponte Building, Berea
Sun, 24 Mar 7AM-10AM R150

Picnics in the Sky by Curiocity Hostels
Carlton Centre 50th Floor
Sun, 24 Mar 11AM-1:30PM
R300pp includes: picnic basket, picnic blanket, eating utensils, + guide

As always follow @FOMOFridaysJHB on Instagram for live story updates on these events, great venues and more. If any event sparks interest be sure to click through the links to get more info and any ticket info.

Oh… also, trying the same format as I use on the Instagram page here on the blog. It’s more for uniformity and time saving. Let me know in comments if you’re down with the change or prefer the story-telling vibe.

#HappyFridayPeeps

xo,

ALN.

 

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We’re on the halfway mark of this month and autumn is starting to settle in. Whenever I mention this people get so annoyed for some reason. I do not have power over nature! Seasons are seasons are seasons. Freshen up that wardrobe and remember all you need is a light jacket. 😉

Friday, 8 March:

 

3rd time running the Johannesburg International Comedy Festival started last night at the Joburg Theatre at it looks like a full on show. Over 60 local and international comedy acts with some top faves like Kagiso Lediga, Desmond Dube and Rob Van Vuuren. Tonight in particular Loyiso Gola kicks off the show. [Fri-Sat, 15-16 Mar 7PM R150-R300]

POP Art in Maboneng keeps the great shows coming with Salaam Stories, an award-winning and international performed play which dives into history and memory during the Cape Slave trade. It only runs for 3 days so be sure to catch this one. [Fri-Sun, 15-17 Mar 8PM R120]

Just next door to POP Art, The Bioscope Cinema premieres the Official South African Cannes Selection film, The Harvesters/Die Stropers tonight. [Fri-Thurs, 15-21 Mar 8PM]

One event I’m sure will be thought-provoking and honest is Goldendean’s book launch at Be Bold, Come Gold. Goldendean is a genderqueer media artist who went viral some years back with their #FUCKWHITEPEOPLE performance and their book Plan B: A Gathering of Strangers (Or) This Is Not Working is out and will be accompanied with dialogue and a golden party in Brixton tonight. [Fri, 15 Mar 7PM-11PM]

Fourways Farmers Market has a Friday Edition which sounds like a great post work chill-out for peeps in the area. The Sunday edition still stands but this one is an evening version with beer specials, food and live performance. [Fri, 15 Mar 3:30PM-10:30PM]

Saturday, 9 March:

 

It’s gonna be H-O-T this weekend so the outdoors are kind of a must. A little out of the city is Nirox Sculpture Park which is a beautiful quiet park with scattered art sculptures all over the place. They have back to back events tomorrow and Sunday; Theatre in the Park with a performance from NSA students of Shakespeare’s Midsummer Nights Dream with music by Urban Village on Saturday. [Sat, 16 Mar 11AM-6PM R200/R250]

More performance tomorrow at Market Theatre with a bright and colourful story driven dance show from a Flemish choreographer called Rule of Three at one theatre and Market Theatre Workshop student Open Day showcase at The Mannie Mannin Theatre. [Sat, 16 Mar 12PM-3PM and 8PM-9:30PM]

There are probably a ton of parties going down tomorrow – I just can’t find ’em! Lol. But to mention some interesting ones – Random Films Studio Party at Keleletla! Library and Everything is Temporary at KCB. One cute and quaint art vibes and one with some top DJs bringing not just your regular vibes. [Sat, 16 Mar 8PM-3AM]

Sunday, 10 March:

 

The Sunday event at Nirox is the Poetry & Jazz Concert which is the postponed Valentines Day event with MINI and KayaFM. The lineup is pretty great with Itai Hakim, The Brother Moves On, Msaki and Mandi Vundla among others. [Sun, 17 Mar 10AM-6PM R330 online]

We House Sundays x Kid Fonque is in JHB on Sunday at the iconic Constitutional Hill. As the name suggests it’s a day of the best of house music with a UK based guest star DJ. [Sun, 17 Mar 2PM-10:30PM R150 online]

A monthly fave is back at Neighbourgoods. Sunday Edition brings fresh DJs, a small market and good eats. It’s no Neighbourgoods Market – it’s like the cooler and familiar cousin. [Sun, 17 Mar 1PM R50]

Newtone Sunday is bringing the groove with Third Place Newtown’s resident DJs. I live so close to this venue and it just keeps bringing such great events and nothing beats a Sunday chill in the city. [Sun, 17 Mar 3PM-12AM R50]

For a bit of learning, Pick Me Up Poetry is hosting a free Creative Writing and Live Performance Workshop for anyone who is interested in growing their craft and possibly learning new skills. First time I’ve come across this but I’m certainly keeping an eye for more of them. [Sun, 17 Mar 11AM-3PM]

As always follow @FOMOFridaysJHB on Instagram for live story updates on these events, great venues and more. If any event sparks interest be sure to click through the links to get more info and any ticket info.

Have a goodie!!

xo,

ALN.

 

 

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Fri-YAY!! Sweet baby cheeses I’m so glad this day is here. Not be a weekend-chaser but there’s nothing like a full day (or two) all to yourself! While doing this page I’ve come to realise there is so much happening in Joburg and I barely scratch the surface – but onwards and upwards familia. Hope you find something that suits you this week.

Friday, 8 March:

 

A few things have already started this past week but go on into the weekend. In Maboneng; The Bioscope has brought back (by popular demand) RBG a documentary film on Women’s Rights lawyer and cultural icon, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, POP Art premiered Mnquma – a one man personal journey in connecting with his cultural roots.  The National School of Arts is halfway into it’s 2019 Festival of the Arts which is taking place at the school and at Joburg Theatre. A showcase of plays, dance, music and arts. See links for each event for times, cost and venues for these great cultural shows.

Staying on schools, UJ Arts & Culture and It Has To Be Jazz is hosting its Jazz is not Lost evening of young jazz talents who are proving that the legacy and feeling of jazz is very much alive. [Fri, 8 Mar 7-10PM R150]

Urban Village is making it’s rounds in Joburg and I’m here for all of it. Tonight they are at Untitled Basement for an intimate live show. [Fri, 8 Mar 8PM R100]

All roads lead to Welgelegen Manor in Mpumalanga for the 2nd Bacardi Holiday Club – Beach Edition. 90% of the tickets which include drinks, food and camping spots for the whole weekend are sold – so I’m probably letting you know about this way too late, but if this has sparked your interest do check out the FB event to see what you could (or could not) be missing. [Fri, 8-10 Mar R1250]

Saturday, 9 March:

 

Jolburg is bringing a night of a queer expression and celebration through performance and music with I’m here, I’m queer Vol I. Lineup has not been confirmed yet, but if you’re a queer performer check out the link and get yourself added. [Sat, 9 Mar 7PM]

Eenblond Tours which hosts various food and cultural tours and walks through various neighbourhoods and areas in Jozi are having a Fordsburg Street Food, Art & History Tour tomorrow from Newtown into Fordsburg. Great way to meet new people and go on a safe guided tour through one of the city’s fave spots. [Sat, 9 Mar 11am-2:30PM R460pp]

Hazard Gallery at The Cosmopolitan are hosting multiple works one of which is from visual artist and photographer Ugo Woatzi. His work Chameleon looks at the spaces we exist in and try find meaning and happiness in besides the hetero-normative context. Alongside this will be a fashion experience with Buffer Magezine and Fashion is Art at The Cosmo.  [Sat, 9 Mar 5PM-late]

Tha Cutt & Spindle bring performance DJ’ing to KCB on Saturday. Tha Cutt is known for his technical skills and Tablist is on it’s 3rd installment in putting this best foot forward with other turntable greats. If beats, scratches and classics are for you, pull through. [Sat, 9 Mar 8PM-late R50 after 10PM]

For a more bluesy and jazz inspired evening pop into Radio Bantu’s Saucetones. Live instrumentation and roots music is the order of this event. Roving Bantu Kitchen will serve up the meals with this hearty event. [Sat, 9 Mar 8-11PM R100/R250 with dinner]

Sunday, 10 March:

 

The FeelGoodSeries has a sister and it’s called Pantone Sundays. This fresh and colourful party hosted at Razor Charlie has been around since spring 2018 and sadly this is the last one before winter kicks in. This months theme is purple so be sure to dust off your royal colours and join them this Sunday. [Sun, 10 Mar 3-10PM R100 presold]

August House Gallery is hosting is popular Open Studio Art Affair. This event brings the pan-African urban artists’ closer to you so they profit directly from their creative works. Five storeys of unique and interesting art to view and buy. [Sun, 10 Mar 10:30AM-4PM]

So much art this weekend, but here’s a celebration of 18 years of it at Spaza Art Gallery this Sunday in Troyeville. R100 get’s you lunch, music and live performances at the gallery with some of Jozi’s best. [Sun, 10 Mar 12-6PM R100]

Be sure to follow @FOMOFridaysJHB on Instagram for live story updates on these events, great venues and more. The links provided click through to the actual event posts so be sure to get the full scoop from the source.

As always thanks for the follow and do share any things that you feel could be profiled on FF. Have a dope weekend!

xo,

ALN.

 

 

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Hey Friday!!! Hey March!!! Happy New Day, Happy New Month. For whatever reason this past week has been a trip! Some planet out there is doing the most and taking everyone for a g-damn spin! Anywho… with a new month there is soooo much going on in Jozi. I’ve tried my best to consolidate a good mix of what to do.

Friday, 1 March:

The Bioscope Cinema stays bringing the films that you didn’t know you wanted to see. Besides the quite intense and emotional Oscars Nominated Shorts I saw last week, I also saw This Is Congo and was introduced to a whole other understanding of the political and social state of the mineral rich country. Today they bring back Everything Must Fall a local film looking at the #FeesMustFall movement that started from a protest against the cost of education and became even more politically and socially charged than ever anticipated. Check it out from today until Thursday. [1-7 Mar, R50]

Untitled Basement doesn’t look like it’s slowing down with hosting amazing local acts – and we’re here for it. Last night was jazz from Bokani Dyer’s next week is Urban Village, but most importantly tonight they host my fave electronic slash dance slash experimental wowness, Nonku Phiri. So there! [1 Mar, 8PM R120]

I’ve never heard of this film fest before – but now I do! The Rapid Lion International Film Festival starts today at The Market Theatre. This particular fest run until the 10th and brings the best of African, African Diaspora and BRICS produced films all in one place. Have a close look at the schedule and lockdown the titles that speak to you. [1 – 10 March, Opening night 630PM R30 – R45]

For a bit of a flashback party night, KCB and Jazzuelle host their monthly dance and electronica party called Dark Disco tonight from 8 at Kitcheners. [1 Mar, 8PM R50]

Saturday, 2 March:

On it’s 6th running year and first edition for 2019, The Soweto Arts & Craft Fair will be held at Soweto Theatre this Saturday. Live music, local artists and fresh emerging creative talent, unique shopping and fun areas for children. Samthing Soweto, SORRY and Ginger Nkosi to perform throughout the day. [2 Mar, 12AM-7PM R20]

Urban Backpackers has a great daytime POPUP party happening at the Urban Zulu Rooftop on Anderson Street in the CBD. I went to the December Edition and it was tons of fun with really great DJs and dope views of the city. [2 Mar, 3-10PM R60/R80]

The Bioscope is bringing back it’s popular Late Night Arcade tomorrow night at The Birdhouse rooftop venue. And yes… it’s a whole night of new-school and old-school gaming on all sorts of cool arcades. Expect some VR gaming and an outdoor cinema. [2 Mar, 5-12PM R100]

Simphiwe Dana fans will be happy to know (if you don’t already of course) that she will be at the Lyric Theatre in Gold Reef City for her Annual Congregation concert tomorrow. 15 years since her debut this show should be quite something. [2 Mar, 8-11PM R250]

Sunday, 3 March:

First Sundays is very much a thing in Joburg. Depending on what vibe you’re looking for you have many options to choose from. Lebo’s Backpackers hosts it’s First Sundays in the form of the Locrate Market in Soweto. Free Entry to their open park with live performances, food, art and clothing stalls as you’d expect at a daytime market. [3 Mar, 11AM-6PM] 

From South to East, Victoria Yards has it’s Open Studio First Sundays where all artisans, food stores, gin distillery and local artists will open their spaces to the public. The local community will also have their fresh produce on sale as part of the community upliftment project at the yards. [3 Mar, 10AM-3PM]

Melville has their own First Sundays throughout the whole suburb where all the restaurants, stores, cocktail and wine bars stay open extra late. Food and drinks specials and even performances will be the order of the day bringing Sunday-Funday energy to the streets. [3 Mar, 12am-12pm]

Koolin In The City is one of my favourite day into night Sunday parties always with the best of local talent and upcoming hip hop talent and household DJs. This time around they have traded in the rooftop in the CBD to the historic Cosmopolitan in Maboneng. This edition sees Stogie T as the main act with many others to hit the stage. I’m really excited to see how this new venue lends itself to KITC. [3 Mar, 2-11PM R100]

I know it’s a lot, but we are slowly creeping out of Summer into Autumn so go out and enjoy the city. Be sure to follow @FOMOFridaysJHB on Instagram for live story updates on events.

xo,

ALN.

 

 

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Thank God it’s Fri-i-i-daaaay! Uhh! And thank God it’s sunny again! Goodnesss! So… starting the instagram page really was the best move for this series of the blog. It now has it’s own life and I’m enjoying the heck out of it. The direct interaction with interested peeps is so great and it feels like it has a place and feels so right for me. Thanks for the love and comments on the page. Upwards and onwards!

 

 

There are some new clubs in town!! Sadly they don’t have dark sultry lighting or dance floors, but they certainly have what we all need – food and laughter! Melville Comedy Club opened on 7th Street just over a month ago and just from their line-up I think they will bring a whole lot of fun. 50% off for legit students. How nice? The other club is Glory‘s weekly Ramen Club which is an intimate 3 course meal in a beautiful house setting. Bookings are essential, but I hear it’s so worth it. [Fri, 22 Feb 7pm]

Friday is full of great music events. Depending on what you’re into each one I’ve listed have completely different vibes by great artists. Diamond Thug and Bye Beneco are bringing dream pop, electronica and the visual stage performance they are known for to Snatch32 in Parkhurst tonight.  [Fri, 22 Feb 8pm]

My personal faves, Urban Village will be performing for the first time this year at Breezeblock, Brixton. These guys stays touring and bring such a fresh sound to traditional folk with Zulu sounds and Xhosa electric funk (which I honestly didn’t know was a thing but makes total sense). Not to be missed! [Fri, 22 Feb 7pm]

For a more mellow laid back sitch Artivist in Braamfontein hosts a weekly vinyl session, Mixtape Fridays, with various top DJs on Fridays from 6pm. Great for after work drinks and nibbles. [Fri, 22 Feb 6pm – late]

 

 

Get Saturday morning to a historic start with a walkabout tour at the Standard Bank Gallery in town. Today sees the launch of A Black Aesthetic exhibition which will go on for 2 months and open to all. This exhibition is said to be the largest collection of Black South African Artists since the dawn of our democracy. Amazing really. I’ll defs go see this and give you peak on the FOMOCam instagram stories. [Sat, 23 Feb 11am – 12pm]

If you don’t know the Feel Good Series you best know about it today! The mother of all Feel Goods is going down tomorrow at Victoria Yards. The first UMI Fest sees a line-up curated by fans of the party through votes on Instagram. What I love about this is that it’s not saturated with well-known, mostly male artists and DJs like you tend to see at most of these type of things. Expect to hear experiential sounds from great DJs, kwaito nostalgia from Darkie Fiction, afro-futuristic beats from rising star Muzi and Melo B’s sweet voice over slick lyrics. I’m obvs gonna be there – come say hi! [Sat, 23 Feb 3pm]

Joburg’s first Chinatown on 11 Commissioner Street will host their Chinese New Year in celebration of the Year of the Pig. The streets will be full of lights, displays of colour and huge fireworks from 9pm. 1Fox Junction and surrounding stores and restaurants will be open and sharing in the festivities. [Sat, 22 Feb 4pm – 11pm]

Haven’t found much happening on Sunday… yet! I will upload onto the FOMOFridaysJHB page as the weekend goes, be sure to follow and keep in touch. DM’s are always welcome if you need more info.

If you are not worn out from everything happening this weekend maybe a nice hike up and around Melville Koppies will be up your alley before brunch or lunch on Sunday. Starting from Marks Park Sports club this monthly hike is great for meeting new people and breaking a sweat while taking in the magnificent views and nature. [Sun, 23 Feb 8:0am]

Have a fab, fearless Friday and a bright and sunny weekend.

xo,

ALN.

 

 

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Hello!!! Happy Friday! 🙂 A whole 5 months later! There are a ton of reasons I took a pause from the blog, but this isn’t the post to go into that. I’m still keeping #FOMOFridays and will try my damnedest to make it a real thing. This time around I’m ditching the “Watching” and “Listening” sections (You can follow my instastories for that if you like). Peeps seemed to be more interested in the “Doing” and gig guide part of these posts so that’s all I’m gonna focus on from now on.

I’ve started an accompanying Instagram (@fomofridaysjhb) page which will link back to here for more info. Lord knows people ain’t got time for reading through blogposts these days – so Insta’s instant gratification of pics may or may not lead you lot back here for ticket links and detail on where, how and when. Starting small for today but I’ll be sourcing events I’d personally go to from Facebook events pages and various newsletters I follow. Enjoy! Have a dope weekend! Also shout out to the new kid in Club 30 – Siya ❤

 

 

With this ridiculous weather (supes grateful rain gods – but ohemgee!). The Bioscope has some goodies starting this weekend if you’re looking to get out but also be cosy. The 2019 Oscar Nominated Shorts (Animation and Live Action) screenings start tomorrow and run until early March. Also – Black Coffee produced coming of age film Matwetwe is on it’s last day tonight at the Bioscope. [Sat, 16 Feb – Sat, 2 Mar]

To observe Black History Month, The Market Theatre and the U.S. Embassy brings the South African version of Nina Simone Four Women. It premiered last week and will run until the 24th. I’ve only heard really good things about it and must go see it.

In the spirit of Valentines and what not there is a different kind of romance to be had at the Millennial Love Affair taking place at Tennis Club tonight. A celebration of love – it’s traumas and it’s glory in a safe inclusive space. [Fri, 15 Feb]

 

 

Naked Soul Sessions will host Neo-Soul singer Mpho Sebina at Untitled Basement on Saturday night. I honestly didn’t know much of her music until I looked her up on SoundCloud and YouTube. SOLD! Amazing. My homegirl Lungi a.k.a. BrownPepperAnn will be on the decks to get the party started. [Sat, 16 Feb]

As the poster suggests – Make Me Feel is a full technicolor experience of fun beats with some of my KCB faves. A groove is definitely in the heart at the Khona! [Sat, 16 Feb]

The year of the Pig is upon us (well to the Chinese) but if you’re like me and love you some Chinese New Year Celebrations. There are a few happening in Johannesburg. Cyrildene being the first tomorrow. Think street parades, open restaurants and just a full on jam. I’ve only ever been twice, but as a sucker for culture it’s worth a visit – even if just for lunch. Next week the Chinatown in the CBD will be having their celebrations too. [Sat, 16 Feb]

Sunday Edition is back for it’s second edition this year. Last month was an absolute blast and if you squint you can see me doing the get-down in this months promo poster. I love a good Sunday party. It’s  huge trap – but the best people always come out. [Sun, 17 Feb]

 

 

 

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It’s A Long Shot. But Why Not?

A.k.a. twenty-MINE-teen. So I always have this weird thing about my thought or experience related posts that I write. They always want to be written – but then I need something that makes me write them. This one in particular was initially a 2018 reflection and a peek into my hopes for 2019 (hence the ‘a.k.a’ – because that was the original title). But today for some reason I had this Kelly Clarkson song on repeat in my head. Which actually isn’t the song where the title is from, but I think I had to listen to it to get to the actual song (in the same album) that led me to write this. Bear with me… I’m getting to the point. I’m sure I lost some of you when I mentioned Kelly Clarkson. For those still reading, the song is called ‘Long Shot’ and was written by Katy Perry (oh God I’m making it worse) and it’s about taking a leap of faith into a statistically risky and improbable romance. When I got to the chorus while listening to in the car on the way home, I was like – oh snap!

It’s a long shot, but I say why not
If I say forget it, I know that I’ll regret it
It’s a long shot just to beat these odds
The chance is we won’t make it
But I know if I don’t take it, there’s no chance
‘Cause you’re the best I got.

Obviously I wasn’t thinking of any love interest or shaky relationship I want to dive into, but more on some experiences that I had in 2018. The ones that led me to learning more about myself and the decisions I make or don’t make. Experiences I could have easily said ‘forget it’ to because of fear, anxiety and tricking myself into thinking I already knew what the outcome was going to be without ever actually taking the chance.

Just to summarise a bit on the magic of taking a shot  at some things even when they may be foreign, surrounded by cynicism or even familiar but seemingly completely out of reach. Firstly was early last year when I consulted a psychic medium, I received a message that I had to start this blog.  For one – psychics or mediums aren’t exactly like going to see a trained doctor or anything, but my belief in a higher order and spiritual realm beyond this world helped squash any of those views. Secondly, from starting this blog I rediscovered my love of stories, imagery, collection and writing in my own unique voice. So then I enrolled in a 8-week creative writing course which opened up the creative beast that was lying dormant in me for years who only needed acknowledgement to get out.

To me these were long shots because I have always stood in my own way and was so very comfortable with limiting my capabilities. It was always – “you’re an engineer, what the hell do you know about this or that”. But the more I said “why not”, the more I started creeping closer to my limitless talent. Closer to being that kid who loved playing dress up, who didn’t have a gender (or so I thought), who created stories from nothing, who drew comic books, who danced and entertained, who was smart and logical and also sang Celine Dion’s Power of Love album in full soprano with their Sub-B teacher (that’s Grade 2 for the youngens).

All these things kept rushing back to this very moment where I’m typing this post – on this blog that I started with no idea what  wanted from it. This moment where I’ve started a YouTube/IGTV Channel (also no idea what it will or wont become), posted pictures of me dancing to my own freestyle choreo and this moment where I sit with a book full of song lyrics, story ideas and outfits I wanna wear. All that and still engineering my ass off on a daily basis. It’s all in one spirit.

My biggest long shot by far was fully sharing my authentic self with my father last Christmas. I’d always had a picture or idea in my head of who this man was. How he would react to a queer son who played around with gender, dyed his hair and wore nail polish. I used to always cut my hair and remove any trace of make-up before heading down to the Eastern Cape for the holidays. This time I didn’t. Bleach blonde hair, Mediterranean blue toe nails and some short shorts for control.

My dad started the convo by asking me how the reading went. It went well. His mother who I don’t remember, uMantshiza, came through with a message that now makes complete sense to me. Eventually we were sitting in the living room for almost 3 hours talking about my not-so-great life in school, how I was so great on stage and how it hurt to never be supported in the arts as much as my brothers were in sports. We laughed and cried a little and tried to make sense of the toxicity of our society’s idea of masculinity. How hectic? Also so damn beautiful.

We both miss the woman who raised me and the one who raised him. I never in a millions years thought I could have this kind of connection with my dad. If I never chose to fully be myself with him, I would have robbed us of this moment. So you never know what you could uncover from just taking the chance. Asking “Why not?” even if it seems so far from reality or even impossible because of where you are in life.

There is much to be learned in those chances and less to regret when you realise that you truly are the best you’ve got and have so much to give.

 

xo,

ALN.

 

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